What is a Ted Talk?
A 'Ted Talk' is simply something you can beat on. It's purpose is for your part/alter, you in the moment of the abuse or trauma, to vent and release the rage, which underlies fear/terror and sadness/despair, from the situation then that caused them to split into another personality to protect you, the front personality. When that new or split personality was in their situation they had no power, no control, not even the ability to say no, let alone push back or escape.
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Now that they are not in that abusive situation, and are safe with you in the here and now, they can hit whatever object you choose for them to have, and tell their abuser/perpetrator exactly what they need to tell them.
Such as...
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How dare you!
Stop hurting me!
What gives you the right!
Die and go to hell!
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That part within you gets to express now what they could not then. In that process, the part within you, and you together with them, begin to understand where the shame and guilt and responsibility really lie, and in hitting the object are taking it off of your shoulders and giving it back to the perpetrator where it rightly belongs.
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This process frees up space within the mind, heart and spirit to understand the lies that were told to them, the pain that they compartmentalized, etc, and begin to ultimately realize what the truth really is. That you were innocent! That the perpetrator(s) was a twisted criminal doing anything and everything they could to suppress your memories in order to keep themselves out of jail. They did anything and everything to lie, convince, coerce and suggest you into believing what they were doing was okay. And it is NOT!
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The term 'Ted Talk' came from the torso you see above designed for martial artists to practice on. It's name is Century Bob Punching Bag. As you can see it is not a bag. Regardless, when I got one I was going to call it Bob but my husband said that he worked with too many Bobs and to find another name. After calling it 'the torso' for weeks, one day Ted just came out of my mouth. Neither of us knew a Ted so Ted it became. It was then that I told my counselor about it and he said, "Well that's a new type of 'Ted talk' now, isn't it?!"
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The name stuck.
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All of these items are available on Amazon.
Just be sure if you get an actual punching bag that hangs, secure it on the bottom too so it does not swing around.
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Some people even use a stick and hit the ground
Or you can take a towel and twist it with your hands
JUST GET OUT YOUR RAGE!!!
(And if you think you don't have any,
that is a part/alter sabotaging you.)
I must say, there is something to be said about being
face to face with 'Ted', your perpetrator(s), that allows you to
truly let loose and face your fears, in safety.
Your parts get to reclaim their God given sovereignty
as a dignified individual and an expression of God,
which is now expressed within you
and through you
into the world.
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My parts have found happiness and peace
by venting and releasing their rage
at the injustice and oppression they experienced.
I highly recommend recording your Ted Talks so that your parts can watch them over and over. Each time your parts see their Ted Talk they are reliving it, and releasing rage as well, just by watching it.
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But don't let that be a substitute
for the real thing.
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Do Ted talks daily if you can,
or 3-4 times a week to begin.
Survivors of SRA have a lot of rage to release, at least I did and still do.
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When I can't sleep from anxiety at night,
I first journal or sketch,
then I watch my Ted Talks.
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When I have anxiety during the day, Ted Talk.
When I have body memories,
Ted Talk on the spot that hurts.
It used to take about 3-6 hours
to get relief for the body memory.
Now it only takes about 15 to 30 minutes.
The last one I did
resolved as I was hitting Ted!
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Therapy for the day.
Give it a try.
IT WORKS!!!
